Dating can be a nerve wracking adventure, especially when we consider how important the right impression on a first date can actually be. For anyone who has been involved in the dating scene, you know first hand that initial impressions mean everything.
One of the most important areas for concern with dating has to be the pre-date preparations we put ourselves through. Everything from the right attire and fragrances to planning out where to go and how to act. We realize that we may only have one chance to make the right impression and we want to put our best foot foreword.
Over the years it's become customary that the male is usually the initiator when it comes to trying to organize a date with a desired female. Because of this we are going to focus attention on the male and some of the things he can remember to do once a date with a female has been finalized, prior to the actual date taking place.
Topdatingtips.com cites..."Whatever your situation there are some common dating rules to follow when venturing into the dating jungle. These rules are simply to protect your emotional state and to ensure even handed success. Women are trained from day one in the art of dating warfare. They have a physical and emotional arsenal that you may never hope to match."
There are many factors to consider as a male when trying to organize a date and details that must be worked out prior to the actual date taking place. Some of these details include; place of interaction, where and how to meet, where or if to eat, and what to do during the course of the date. These factors all play a key role in how the date progresses and should be the first details figured out before advancing onto the smaller details consisting of such things as what to wear, how to act, or how to prepare.
Organization
Picking the right spot to rendezvous with your date is not something that should be taken lightly. As a male you will be expected to have full control over the fine details that will make up the course of the date. If dinner has been decided on, you will want to pick a place that eludes modern style, warm ambiance, and great food. Being able to surprise a woman with great food, a relaxing atmosphere and a place she's never been before will show her that you have great style, good choice in food and can take control of the reins. This will set the right tone that can lead to a wonderful dinner consisting of good conversation.
Offer to pick her up and drive; make sure that your car is clean and free of debris such as old coffee cups, gum wrappers, and cigarette ashes. Nothing says "class" more than cleanliness, and the cleanliness of your vehicle is usually a pretty good indication of how well you take care of yourself and your residence. So clean your ride and spend the on an air freshener. When picking her up at her residence a suggestion for thought is to refrain from giving gifts like flowers or candy, this may be translated by the woman as desperation and neediness. Remember to refrain from talking about your car and showing how fast it is, nothing says immature more than a guy who obsesses over his vehicle. Another thing to remember is always get out of your car and open the passenger side door for her, this will show gentlemanly qualities and score you big points. You would be surprised at how many men don't do this.
Clean Yourself!
Make sure to shower - very important! Deodorant is a must as well as a good shave. According to topdatingtips.com you'll want to look your best. Clean the ears and brush the teeth. Don't overdo the cologne and dress appropriately, you want to be presentable so choose an outfit that portrays class, maturity, and confidence. Depending on what you will be doing you may choose the stylish suit. Perhaps for a movie or casual dinner opt for the new pair of jeans or pants and a stylish shirt. Also, have clean shoes, woman most always will check you out from head to toe and having dirty or old shoes is a dead give away to a woman that there amy be some issues below the surface of what she sees on the exterior.
Conversation
All the cleanliness, gentlemanly gestures and attire won't make much difference if once your mouth opens a swarm of all the wrong words exits. You must know what to say and what not to say. Do not try to impress her. This means do not get into detail about yourself unless she asks you to. And when she does keep it simple, show humility and humbleness by not trying to make yourself sound important or like you have the whole world going for you. You don't want to come across conceited, cocky or arrogant. Touch on a couple things but don't start elaborating, whatever you have or have accomplished will come out gradually during the course of time, not during an hour and a half dinner. Ask her questions and try focusing on her and her life, it will show her that you are interested in getting to know her and that you genuinely care about who she is and what she stands for as a woman. Lots of eye contact is a must, and try to smile whenever you can; it will create a more relaxed state that will make her feel more comfortable around you opening the door to possibly more in-depth conversation between the two of you. Oh yeah....and don't lie, not unless you want all respect and dignity she has for you to be flushed down the drain once she finds out the real truth later on.
After Dinner
Once dinner is finished and the bill arrives don't let it sit on the table, make the move to grab it right away and pay, and avoid trying to show of the bills in your wallet or the 0 bill you're using to pay with - be classy. From here it's up to her, you can make some suggestions but let her decide what's next. Don't pressure her back to your place or get touchy-feely. Follow her signs and play it cool. If you don't force yourself on her with a kiss or hug it will show you have control over yourself and respect her as a lady. Maybe all that happens after dinner is you drive her home, open the car door for her and make sure she gets in safely, but dong this will definitely leave her feeling at ease and make her decision for a second date with you easier.
Be a gentleman and take it slow, respect her wishes and read the signs, you will be able to tell if she's into you or not. And even if she is, sometimes it's still better not to initiate anything on the first date - it will score you points and possibly make her more anxious to see you again in the near future. Adhering to these pointers will show your date that you are not just one of those guys only interested in sex.